“Hi ma and pa. I’m home na po. Thank you so much for everything! I enjoyed my prom, thanks to you and it wouldn’t be the same if it weren’t for you. This is something I’m going to remember for the rest of my life. Thank you and I love you.” – Coleen Pascual
As a mother I spent all these years making sure that my family is getting all the best that they deserve. All I want is their happiness and the joy of this universe. If they laugh I should be there laughing along, if they cry I am always ready to offer a hug and if they want the stars I give them the night sky. They are my whole life. And the most fulfilling part ever is to witness how my children grow and be a part of that growth.
My daughter Coleen just had her junior prom at Sofitel Philippine Plaza Hotel last February 18, 2012. This is not only very special for her but most of all a turning point for me as a mother. I could not believe my eyes that my little baby daughter has majestically transformed into a very beautiful, elegant and gorgeous young lady.
I remember that late last year she just celebrated her sixteenth birthday. Sweet sixteen in fact! I found myself then with tears in my eyes, very happy for my princess that she is beginning to get a taste of adulthood. My feelings are just normal, I just could not help but to be overjoyed and excited for her all the more.
Now, she truly has become a spontaneously stunning head-turner. Her elegant bustier serpentine gown in mauve color accentuated with scattered flowerette beads at the bodice and petal fingers on the hemline is just perfect for her. Her makeup complemented exactly the figure of her face and it brought out her true beauty. She was oozing with so much grandiose and glamour.
My daughter Coleen is but wonderful. I see in her eyes how happy she is and how happier she will become in her prom. I would want to see how she dances but I could not. It is her night anyway. I have a lot of questions in my head but I later realized that she is going to a prom – the place where she will sense her becoming more than just a girl. That she alone can decide what will make her happy. That she can enjoy her utmost social independence.
The only thing that I can do is to wish her luck on her way though. I moreover would like my daughter discover her true self. Later as years pass by, she will be dealing with many kinds of people. The experience on those days shall test her emotional and social quotient. So I prayed that the prom night would be a strong start of developing her both emotional and social foundation.
On the other hand, however, I know that I need to become a stage mother. In this way, I can give her direct support of whatever she may feel. Of whatever she is feeling that she does not know. The gowns and the makeup is not the thing in a promenade but rather the support of a mother to her growing daughter. She needs something else other than going there beautifully groomed and dressed. She needs permission and acceptance. As a mother, I have the tendency to be protective and selfish because who would want their daughter to be hurt anyway. That is why I gave my daughter Coleen my full trust, love and confidence that I am sure made her so happy. She might not see it the way I saw it but the most significant thing is that everything went well.
Girls and boys may see it as another special school activity but in its truest sense it is already the preparation for a more serious life ahead. Having crushes is not something that my daughter is exempted. I know that puppy love is silently at work. That is why I always at the guard for support. Her father and her siblings are always at the back up too.
We expect that suitors will queue their lines before our window and that is another point again when she needs her family’s support. After all two years from now she will be legally responsible for her own affairs. By that time I and her father would just be confident that we prepared her enough.